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JetmamaDiDi · 9/06/2014 10:53 pm

annieahoy wrote:
April, you're the one who posted the videos for us; you know, the four videos that explained how Maks feels about Meryl. He articulated so beautifully his opinion of her, his admiration, so many great things he said that it almost sounded like a Nicholas Sparks novel. How could he go from that to the man we think we are seeing now?
I don't want anything I say to sound like a defense of Maks or Meryl; I'm just trying to make sense of it all because that's how my psyche works. It's easy to defend Meryl, but I don't know about Maks now. I'm wondering if he's sort of gone off the deep end over the DWTS thing. If you saw him on Extra when Tony asked if he would like to judge, Maks' face lit up and he said, of course I would judge -- I have a lot to say! I think he took it for granted that he could be hired as a judge, and when that didn't happen, it may have thrown him into a tailspin. He may be acting out now without saying it but perhaps his attitude is this: Well! DWTS rejected me and some people may look down on me for that, so I'll show everybody! I'll go on this five-day luxury trip to Italy and take a woman with me. How many of YOU were important enough to be invited? He may actually be trying to mask pain and going about it all wrong.
Let's face it -- he's not going to marry this girl unless he has gone completely off the deep end. And, if he were to do something so foolish, it wouldn't last.
He may be worried about future ventures too. First -- acting. He has no guarantee of being successful at this and he must know it. That has to be scary.
Then, the jewelry. I sincerely hope and pray that I don't offend anyone here -- we all have a right to our different tastes. Maks is dealing with the men's jewelry, and, let's face it, most men won't wear jewelry other than a watch or wedding ring. Two women who interviewed Maks for a TV (or radio) show said they would love to buy a piece for their husbands, but they don't wear jewelry. Remember the gold chains of the 70s? That was a fad that didn't last too long. Most men who would go around now with a shirt unbuttoned down to there and a chain on would be ridiculed. The biggest clients for this would be for a costume (Halloween or other) or dancing. Hipsters and gays would go for it, but most hipsters couldn't affort it . The stuff is NOT cheap. This is an Italian company, and Italians don't always have the same tastes as Americans. Italy is where most of the jewelry would be sold, and I don't know if Maks' promotion of it would do that much good.
I'm just rambling and rattling and trying to made sense of the world and hope I haven't offended anyone. If you disagree with me, I won't be upset, and would want to know. I get a lot from others' opinions that are different from mine.

Annie, I think we are all feeling that way. Feel free to vent and/or ramble. We have always tried to figure this thing out. it's when things get dicey that we have the best conversations!! Meaty!!! LOL

gabriele · 9/06/2014 10:53 pm

CEK40 wrote:
April, Jet, gabriele...did someone jump ship....why, when...someone tell me why I need the Jame Bond Boat???

My 'stocktake' of the Italian trip fallout is as follows....
Carrie, Cassidy, Ollie - definitely no longer 'shipping', but happy to be here to mix and mingle here.
Tango, Gunner and Luv (?) - currently on a break from the Travelling Sisterhood's board.
Don't really want to speak on anyone's behalf - so I stand corrected if the above is wrong.

CEK40 · 9/06/2014 10:53 pm

april6263 wrote:
CEK40 wrote:
April, Jet, gabriele...did someone jump ship....why, when...someone tell me why I need the Jame Bond Boat???
did you see my post letting you know what was going on with everyone yet???...."hold my hand"...it's ok i really think they'll be back...if you haven't found my post explaining by the time you get to this let me know and i'll explain again..ok

No april I didn't but I will go back and find it...I have got your hand tight...

JetmamaDiDi · 9/06/2014 10:54 pm

CEK40 wrote:
April, Jet, gabriele...did someone jump ship....why, when...someone tell me why I need the Jame Bond Boat???

Well, gunner gave it up last nite or the nite before--and tonite it was Luv who said she was outta here. I sent gunner a PM yesterday on her non-board email and have not heard from her. Just let her know we wanted her to come back when she felt like it. She was taking this Maks thing really hard.

JetmamaDiDi · 9/06/2014 10:56 pm

april6263 wrote:
JetmamaDiDi wrote:
gabriele wrote:

..... and Tango....

Tango is gone too?? OH NO!!!!!
I think they'll be back....haven't seen gunner or Tango tonight but i think i remember Tango saying she had a weekend trip to a dance thing this weekend and would be gone for a few days....Luv was just having a bit of a rough night I guess...she left right as i got here...i really didn't get to talk to her much...don't know where Gunner is.....

Gunner is just really upset by Maks' actions with bikini babe....from the first photo. She signed on that night and signed right off--with only like one or two posts. The next nite she came back and was on for a little while and said she was taking a break.

annieahoy · 9/06/2014 10:57 pm

april6263 wrote:
guys...just want to put this out there....it's coming from my heart....the last few days have been much more than rough waters for our ship it's been more like a hurricane...we don't know whats going on with Maks and Meryl and well i wish i had a magic wand to wave and make it all better but i don't...when we first met on the ABC boards we were all just some random people who had a mutual affection for two dancers....but something happened along the way...we have become so much more than that... we have become friends....friends who understand and support each other....the less than 20...we can't nor should we control MNM....what happens between them is theirs...this is just my opinion but i think we need to let go of alot of the stressing and worrying over everything...let's just "Let it Be" by the beattles....we will get answers one day but that may be a long ways away....in the meantime no matter where we stand on the relationship we can still be fans of theirs and their dancing and celebrate that...after all it gave us each other....i like coming on here in the evenings and hearing about how all your days went and having fun with our parties and supporting each other....that is "ours" ....and i want it to stay "ours" so yes while we still follow tweets and instas and gossip about whats going on with them and talk about our feelings about them whether they be good or bad and post pics and videos can we just still remember that at the end of the day whats theirs is theirs and whats ours is ours and not stress so badly??? i'm still here holding hands...and i will send Cek in her James Bond boat and Jet in her airplane and Val in his swim trunks and Carries track team and Cassidy's grandson (to tackle them) after anyone that falls off because this ship isn't just about the romance (though thats part of it) it's about celebrating two people who are responsible for bringing us together....whether they are together or not...we're going to have ups and downs and we will support each other through them...but can we let out a collective deep breath and just let go of some of the stress...and just channel Doris Day and the "Que Sera Sera" song....and LOL... we have a whole new season coming up to cheer on our PLL and Val and diss Derek and rant about Julianne and laugh at Peta trying to figure out Tommy Chong and Whitney doing the Carlton and Mark meeting Uncle Si and getting to know Keo and Allison....what do you say anyone with me on not stressing so much????

Agreed we need less stress; the only way I can do that right now is to write scenarios in my head that has them getting together. Maybe I'll write a movie script and submit it!HAHA My son knows Steve Buscemi so maybe he can tell me what to do. I KNOW this is ridiculous talk, but it's the only way I can deal at the moment. Thanks for your input, April.

JetmamaDiDi · 9/06/2014 10:57 pm

annieahoy wrote:
JetmamaDiDi wrote:
gabriele wrote:

Hi April! No worries.... as I said yesterday and can repeat today, it isn't over until the fat lady has sung. It might be a duet or a choir of a few of us when the time comes. But for me it isn't here quite yet. I sail gladly sail on with you sistas.

That's right--I HAVE NOT SUNG!! And I don't plan to sing for quite some time---till this thing is forever OVER!!!
I'm with you Jet! AND, I hope Tommy Chong wins the mirror ball!!!! hahahahaha. That'll show 'em. (I have to laugh to keep from crying.)

Wouldn't THAT be hilarious?!! LOL

CEK40 · 9/06/2014 10:57 pm

JetmamaDiDi wrote:
april6263 wrote:
gabriele wrote:

My initial thought too. Let's see if it is still a work in progress. I wouldn't pick Meryl as someone who easily abandons a 'project'. At least, I don't expect her to give up on the friendship easily.

yeah we know she oesn't give up on things easily....she kept after that gold medal for 17 years!!!

Well, this is true--and Maks has a need to resolve stuff with exes and former partners. So maybe this is some tantrum that he's got going right now?! LOL I think that people who always try to "fix" things like he does just have conflict about themselves. It's a lack of confidence--and that it is ok to have a problem with someone that maybe can't be resolved--and then you have to let it go. I am a person who doesn't really like conflict, but I do stand on principle and I voice my opinion. I don't expect everyone to agree with me. You realize you can't please everyone and you make a value judgement about how important or unimportant the person as a WHOLE is--and decide if some issue is worth giving up the relationship. Most of the time it isn't worth sacrificing the relationship. I'll bet Maks tries to fix everything with everybody because he can't forgive himself for his possible role in creating the problem.

Jet I think you are on to something here...I do believe that Maks has a huge problem with lack of confidence and he over compensates in other ways...I don't mean things that are bad but I think sometime he doesn't know what to do to make things right and he is always trying to fix something when he neglects to look at himself...

CEK40 · 9/06/2014 10:59 pm

JetmamaDiDi wrote:
CEK40 wrote:
April, Jet, gabriele...did someone jump ship....why, when...someone tell me why I need the Jame Bond Boat???

Well, gunner gave it up last nite or the nite before--and tonite it was Luv who said she was outta here. I sent gunner a PM yesterday on her non-board email and have not heard from her. Just let her know we wanted her to come back when she felt like it. She was taking this Maks thing really hard.

I hate that...I thought she was earlier before I left...maybe I will send her a message too and gunner!!!

gabriele · 9/06/2014 10:59 pm

CEK40 wrote:
Ok so I think I have this pieced together....
Luv is upset because of the last couple of days happenings...
Gunner has been off for a couple days hasn't she, taking a break???
Tango...wasn't she doing something this weekend???

But how is everyone else???
April, Jet, annie are you all ok???
Gabriele I think you are off now...do you all know if she is ok too???
And what about eveyone else...Carrie, Cassidy, KOS, Ollie....
I know vmmm is only one here and there and HRM is probably lurking with us???

I'm good and offering hand, shoulder, cheek, arms or whatever to anyone in need. xoxoxo