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april6263 · 9/07/2014 12:03 am

CEK40 wrote:
Ok I am going to think about all the happenings and then post something when I get my thoughts together...The one thing that I can say without a doubt is...
We all started on the ABC board to support then ship MnM...and somewhere along the way this group of us became more than just "fans" of MnM...we became friends with each other The when the waters on ABC became to rough for us to sail we turned our ship around and found a "safe harbor" for us to stay...we went through a lot to get here so that we could stay together and not lose anyone along the way.
Don't get me wrong I love Maks and Meryl, their dancing, their chemistry, them together and I will be the first one to say that I truly believe that there is/was something special very special between them that developed during Season 18, but their relationship as a "couple" was in a way "our" meaning everyone on tumblr, Instagram, twitter, all the boards and not what they said they had. Will or could it become more sure but right now it is what it is and there is nothing we can do about it because as Maks has always said "it is their relationship".
The one think I can say is that I know what "our" relationship in the "Sisterhood of the Traveling Message Board" is, I am am not going to let MnM or their actions in their personal lives, or anyone else come between "us". I feel I have become close enough with you to call my friends...no my sisters and for that I am greatful...call me silly, nuts or even odd...but it is true for me. I don't just enjoy coming on here and talking about MnM or DWTS but about us...what we are doing or going or have done...our days and our likes and dislikes about what ever we are talking about...our Monday Man Crush and TBT...our cakes and bar recipes....there is more to the "Sisterhood" than MnM.

You know today I was thinking about MnM today and what their lives must be like living in a fish bowl all the time...no matter what you do our where you go you are being looked at, photographed, harrassed, etc....
Then there are people like us "shippers" as we are called...now we are no way like some of them on tumblr cause some of the stuff they post on there is just WAY over the top, but you have people tweeting them and posting things about why this and why that. Then when they have apperances and show the first thing they are asked is something about their relationship, why arent they together, when are they getting married and having children. It has to be overwhelming for them, especially with their lives changing...so maybe just maybe with the new season of DWTS things about them will settle down and they will kinda become a little less out there and if there is anything there who knows, but again it is between the two of them and we will cheer them on when or if it does happen...so for now let them live their lives like it or not...but lets not let them break us up!!!

I know some of the sisters have said they won't watch the new season of DWTS, but hey I think it will be pretty good and I am excited for Val and Janel and excited to see what they can do...Whitney and and Alfonso, oh and Tommy Chong and Betsy Johnson...then there is Artem (he is cute), so no it is not MnM but it may be pretty good anyway...

So I am here for you to laugh with, cry with, and even have a drink and cake with then when aprils hands are full I will hold your hand...

I absolutely love everything you just said and i feel the same way....this "sisterhood" has become so much more than just MNM shippers (although we are that)...we have become friends and i love that even when we have a bit of rough waters we lean on each other and get through it togther...love all you guys

april6263 · 9/07/2014 12:04 am

JetmamaDiDi wrote:
CEK40 wrote:
JetmamaDiDi wrote:

I'm fine, CEK. Thanks! I am pretty easy on this stuff. I really want MnM to be a couple, but what can ya do? Not in our control so just gotta ride the tide 'n go with the flow!!! LOL
I am riding with you jet!!!

Glad you are!!!

I'm riding with you too Jet!!!

annieahoy · 9/07/2014 12:04 am

JetmamaDiDi wrote:
CEK40 wrote:
april6263 wrote:

you know we talked about how Meryl is going through alot of life changes and needs time....but so is Maks....he went from being on top of the world after the win, took a trip to India...where by the way he behaved himself quite well...to come home to a massive storm of sm and and gossip show backlash and hate over something we now know he did absolutely nothing to derserve...his tried with quiet dignity during this time to go on with buisness as usual and took ALL the heat onto his own shoulders..(just my opinion..to protect Meryl)....and through all this his buisness life has forever changed...he gave up his career admittedly so he wouldn't feel like he was cheating on Meryl...thats alot for anyone to deal with...what's he doing now??? idk....but i think maybe he needs our understanding and support as much as if not more than Meryl does
I agree with you april...everyone always seems to be talking bad about Maks, but I don't really feel he has done anything to warrent that respons...I think they are both in a bit of a turmoil in their lives with all the changes they haved had and are yet to come...who knows maybe it could be the changes and struggles that bring them closer....
That often happens and I have faith that they are both smart enough and introspective enough to weather it together. Perhaps Meryl wanted a few months this fall to get bak in a groove and see how things go.

I'm gonna work that into the movie (or book) too. They will have a dramatic, tearful reunion!

april6263 · 9/07/2014 12:07 am

annieahoy wrote:
april6263 wrote:
annieahoy wrote:
April, you're the one who posted the videos for us; you know, the four videos that explained how Maks feels about Meryl. He articulated so beautifully his opinion of her, his admiration, so many great things he said that it almost sounded like a Nicholas Sparks novel. How could he go from that to the man we think we are seeing now?
I don't want anything I say to sound like a defense of Maks or Meryl; I'm just trying to make sense of it all because that's how my psyche works. It's easy to defend Meryl, but I don't know about Maks now. I'm wondering if he's sort of gone off the deep end over the DWTS thing. If you saw him on Extra when Tony asked if he would like to judge, Maks' face lit up and he said, of course I would judge -- I have a lot to say! I think he took it for granted that he could be hired as a judge, and when that didn't happen, it may have thrown him into a tailspin. He may be acting out now without saying it but perhaps his attitude is this: Well! DWTS rejected me and some people may look down on me for that, so I'll show everybody! I'll go on this five-day luxury trip to Italy and take a woman with me. How many of YOU were important enough to be invited? He may actually be trying to mask pain and going about it all wrong.
Let's face it -- he's not going to marry this girl unless he has gone completely off the deep end. And, if he were to do something so foolish, it wouldn't last.
He may be worried about future ventures too. First -- acting. He has no guarantee of being successful at this and he must know it. That has to be scary.
Then, the jewelry. I sincerely hope and pray that I don't offend anyone here -- we all have a right to our different tastes. Maks is dealing with the men's jewelry, and, let's face it, most men won't wear jewelry other than a watch or wedding ring. Two women who interviewed Maks for a TV (or radio) show said they would love to buy a piece for their husbands, but they don't wear jewelry. Remember the gold chains of the 70s? That was a fad that didn't last too long. Most men who would go around now with a shirt unbuttoned down to there and a chain on would be ridiculed. The biggest clients for this would be for a costume (Halloween or other) or dancing. Hipsters and gays would go for it, but most hipsters couldn't affort it . The stuff is NOT cheap. This is an Italian company, and Italians don't always have the same tastes as Americans. Italy is where most of the jewelry would be sold, and I don't know if Maks' promotion of it would do that much good.
I'm just rambling and rattling and trying to made sense of the world and hope I haven't offended anyone. If you disagree with me, I won't be upset, and would want to know. I get a lot from others' opinions that are different from mine.
Annie i don't know what's going on with Maks...i wish i did...but i don't think there are any cut and dried answers...we are trying to understand him from our points of view on life and thats not going to work because he comes from a different place...i think Meryl understands his world because the ice skating world is similar to the dance world...or why he's doing different things...but right now all i do know is that since he came back from India this man who has done so much to help with charities that are aimmed at preventing bullying and abuse....has himself been the recipient of it on sm....he is going through alot of big life changes right now too....so maybe we don't need to understand him...maybe we just need to "hold his hand"...while he works it out...
And, you can imagine how he was bullied when he came to this country and lived in Brooklyn, NY, and was a dancer! Boys in this country who take dancing are generally considered to be sissies, gay, or somehow warped. Here, especially in Texas, it's all about huntin' and fishin'. In Europe there is not the same attitude about boys' dancing; there are historical reasons for this that I won't go into now. Just think -- Maslow's hierarchy of needs and how much older Europe is than the U.S. and has had more time to fulfull the basic needs and then move onto the arts. Nothing against hunters here, and I think it's easier for grown men to take dancing lessons.

and well Maks comes across as so strong in his self confidence and sturdy in his support of everyone around him....sometimes i think it's easy to forget he hurts too...

CEK40 · 9/07/2014 12:07 am

KeepOnSinging wrote:
I will probably check up on how things are going on this board in a few days, but I am going to step away for awhile. My reasons are identical to Tango's reasons. I do not for a minute believe that Maks is falling apart. And I can't say that he is reverting to his bad boy ways because I do not believe he was a bad boy any more than Val, or Derek or Mark or Tony is a bad boy. And I most defintiely do not believe, based on the evidence, that he is being disrespectful to Meryl and hurting her. The evidence based on a pattern of what they do when either of them is out of the country, is that MnM do communicate on a regular basis. That pattern continued today. I am confident that whether as a sweetheart or as an amazing friend, Meryl knew all about this trip before any of us did because MnM talked about it. People are telling him he needs to ask for forgiveness. Others are saying that he needs to crawl. I think his instagram picture of the writing on the wall and Lizzie's tweet all point to this. He is not doing anything wrong, and this includes the fact that he is not hurting Meryl. My opinion is so contrary to what is being said on this board that I feel it is best for me to take this break. I do not want to offend anyone. Even more I do not want to say something to someone that will hurt or wound them. We went from saying "LIsten to Maks" to questioning his very integrity in a matter of 24 to 36 hours.

It has taken me so long to write this, edit it and rewrite it that probably all the rest of you have logged off. Sweet dreams to all of you. Gabriele, I think of you and your son a lot as I am becoming acquainted with the 21 year old autistic son of a friend of mine. I spend time with him for several hours two days a week. He is a sweetheart and madly in love with Disney.

KOS please come back and don't stay away...I to feel that Maks is doing nothing wrong and that he and Mery talk a lot and I even said in an earlier post that she more than likely knew of his trip and with who was going. I don' think he has anything to be sorry for to anyone...so please...please...stay with us....

JetmamaDiDi · 9/07/2014 12:07 am

CEK40 wrote:

So here’s another one…..love what the woman next to Maks is wearing. Wow! Just wow! Strange outfit choice! Once again, evidential proof that having money does not equal having good taste.

I just don't know about that womans outfit and then from what I can see of her shoes...oh my!!!

That pic of Maks further substantiates the phone in the air recording "All of Me." This is a plain blue jacket--not the barber shop one--and his hairline looks about right on the neck. Don't you wish you knew what he did with that??!!! LOL

CEK40 · 9/07/2014 12:09 am

annieahoy wrote:
CEK40 wrote:

He's STILL braiding hair. I think they are cute, but someone please shoot me if I try to ship them!!

It is funny but we won't ship them and they would be the ones that become a couple...LOL

april6263 · 9/07/2014 12:10 am

JetmamaDiDi wrote:
april6263 wrote:
JetmamaDiDi wrote:

Gunner is just really upset by Maks' actions with bikini babe....from the first photo. She signed on that night and signed right off--with only like one or two posts. The next nite she came back and was on for a little while and said she was taking a break.
I hope she decides to come back
Me too....I told her we wanted her to come back when she is ready---and then I talked about quilting, hoping she would feel better. When life gives you scraps, make quilts!

I love that saying!!!! i'll send her and luv and tango a pm too

annieahoy · 9/07/2014 12:10 am

CEK40 wrote:

So here’s another one…..love what the woman next to Maks is wearing. Wow! Just wow! Strange outfit choice! Once again, evidential proof that having money does not equal having good taste.

I just don't know about that womans outfit and then from what I can see of her shoes...oh my!!!

I don't like those gladiator shoes on anyone who is not six feet tall and weighs 100 lbs. Dig those sleeves, too. Dang! I so wish Joan Rivers were here to critique these outfits. I miss her! Maks is no doubt upset by her death since he had just recently met her, laughed like crazy when they were on Andy Cohen's show, and called her one of his new homies.
They must have told everyone to wear white! Personally, I'm hoping Romeo and Devin sleep together tonight!

JetmamaDiDi · 9/07/2014 12:10 am

april6263 wrote:
JetmamaDiDi wrote:
april6263 wrote:

Annie i don't know what's going on with Maks...i wish i did...but i don't think there are any cut and dried answers...we are trying to understand him from our points of view on life and thats not going to work because he comes from a different place...i think Meryl understands his world because the ice skating world is similar to the dance world...or why he's doing different things...but right now all i do know is that since he came back from India this man who has done so much to help with charities that are aimmed at preventing bullying and abuse....has himself been the recipient of it on sm....he is going through alot of big life changes right now too....so maybe we don't need to understand him...maybe we just need to "hold his hand"...while he works it out...

I would agree with that! He probably needs Meryl's hand to hold and lap to put his head on but pride has gotten the better of him for some reason. We can just hope and pray he comes to his senses and makes amends, if those are in order. Once you've rung the bell you can't unring it--but you can try to "fix" it. That is his MO.
i kind of think it's the fans and sm he needs the hand hold from....i think sm is the thing he can't "fix" right now that is causing him to stress the most...his fans mean alot to him...you can tell by how hands on he is with them....i think it really hurt him when the fans on sm turned on him and no matter what he does now it never seems to be the right move....and all he's really done is be the same Maks he's always been

If he has been true to himself and he knows his values, he just needs to put a lot of oil on his back and let the stuff slide off. Either that or somehow disconnect from SM--but I know that is impossible and not recommended these days. The problem becomes: how many of these folks on SM are customers??!! Probably very few!!!